Thursday, August 18, 2011

You Are Too Old to Wear That!

Last week I was told I was too old to wear t-shirts with anything printed on them. Plain tee's are all that are left for me. When I questioned the rule, I was told because I didn't immediately tell them to mind their own business I didn't "own my choices" and that proved I shouldn't be wearing them. Until that moment in time it had never occurred to me that people might think I was trying too hard to look young by wearing a t-shirt with a SF saying on it or a wine comment. They just made me laugh and I just thought my other SF friends would get a kick out of it. Will I wear the T-Shirts again? Yes. Will I ever feel as happy wearing them as I did before? No. No matter how much I say other people's opinions don't matter, there will always be a small part of me that wonders who is judging my outfit and deciding I don't measure up.

The problem with rules like this is they seemed designed to punish people who don't do it right. I want my clothing choices and fashion moments to reflect my personality in a unique way, not make me more grown-up, dignified, fashionable or appropriate. I want to be able to be silly and quirky and fun, especially during my non-work hours and I truly don't understand how that can be defined by age. Although I do enjoy reading the fashion magazines I am tired of rules made up by some mythical fashion police. I am tired of conversations designed to judge clothing errors instead of complimenting what someone is doing right. I don't want to be one of those women who drags other women down instead of supports and encourages them. Women have it hard enough without having to worry about unwritten arbitrary rules for how they dress.  This is why I will never find the People of Walmart blog funny but instead will always wonder how the person profiled feels when they find they have been highlighted there and wish I could give them a hug. I am done participating in conversations that make fun of strangers clothing and I am done tearing other people down so I can feel better about my questionable clothing choices.


Logtar said...

Good for you. It is liberating when you stop caring what other people look like, but more so when you don't let other affect you.

I am sorry anyone ever made you feel like you could not wear stuff. As long as the message is not offensive, I think T-Shirts with stuff on them are cool, I want to own more and more. I don't have enough of them, and the older I get, the more I will get!

Global Librarian said...

It was said with love and after you asked our opinion on what you should look for on a shopping trip. It was not said to bring you down. I would never have said anything if I knew it would hurt you. Because yes, what you wear is completely up to you and I do normally offer my opinion unless asked.

Please tell me you know I love and care for you. And that you understand why I will never offer a fashion opinion again. Even if asked!

Global Librarian said...

Opps. Darn small iPad screen. " Do not normally offer my opinion unless asked."

A Librarian said...

GL - I am not mad at you for offering an opinion. I am mad that such an arbitrary, silly rule even exists and that we as women buy into it.